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I should've listened to her... 😭

I should've listened to her... 😭

What my mom handed me without explaining, the 40s wellness stuff no one warns you about, and a letter to someone I used to know.

Jennifer Chiu
March 30, 2026

Hi beautiful, ☕

My mom has always given me the best skincare advice.

The tips in my 20s? Golden. 💫

But what she had waiting for me at 40…

Was something completely different. 🤯

She said:
"How you take care of your skin now is how well your skin will age."

This wasn't the 20’s version. This was everything she'd been saving.

And I'm here to share all of it:

🗒️ 10 beauty secrets my mom swears by after 40
🌿 The 40s truth no one warns you about (screenshot tip #2)
💔 A letter I wasn't planning to write…

Her skin in this photo? She was already doing everything she's teaching me now.

Mom’s secrets…finally out.

I smiled and nodded for years while she tried to tell me things…

Too busy buying whatever was trending.

I really should have been listening.

She's Asian.
She doesn’t explain herself.
She hands you something, looks at you

…and waits until you tell her she was right about all of it. 😂

1. Why my skin felt tight every single night 💧 "Just try it for one week." I was cleansing every night and waking up with that tight, stripped feeling… like my skin couldn't breathe. She handed me this eau fraiche cleansing water to use on a cotton pad first and then this creamy cleansing foam on damp skin. My skin finally stopped fighting me. Tip: Always use a cleansing brush, this is the I’ve used for years.

2. She never stops at her chin ☀️ "The sun doesn't stop at your face. Why would you?" I was religious about SPF on my face… but I definitely forgot my neck. She's been using this vital perfection serum and this 3-in-1 primer, moisturizer and SPF all the way down to her chest. She swears that’s why she doesn’t have wrinkles. Tip: Serum first, SPF on top, neck and chest every single day.

3. She hasn't worn foundation in years 👀 She pointed at her face and said nothing else. Meanwhile I was piling on coverage and my skin still looked tired. She said use peptides that lift, so I’ve been drenching myself in this lifting multi-peptide serum (what a game changer!) along with my mom’s favorite brightening and wrinkle smoothing cream to seal it in… and over time? Your skin stops needing to be covered. Tip: Apply to skin when it’s damp. Two nights a week to start.

4. Five minutes. She never skips it. 🌿 "You have five minutes. Do this." I kept saying I didn't have time. She was using this activating essence before it was trendy. I pressed in first so everything actually absorbs, then this watery oil serum warmed and worked upward to de-puff and lift. I tried it once and my face looked completely different, now I do it all the time Tip: Use this skin booster massager to lift and sculpt in minutes.

The stuff no one tells you in your 40s

Nobody hands you a manual for what your body needs after 40…

I had to figure most of it out myself. Some of it the very hard way.

Here's everything I'm doing now that I wish someone had told me sooner.

The wine swap that actually works🍷
If you're reaching for wine just to take the edge off at the end of the night, I get it. But I switched to something that actually helps my body handle the stress instead of just numbing it. These stress support supplements with ashwagandha + saffron don’t give me a hangover, no 3am wake-ups, and I genuinely sleep better. 🌙

This is survival, not vanity 💪
At 40, I'm not lifting to look good. I'm lifting so I can still move the way I want to at 70 and actually keep up with my kids. Tip: 3 days a week, compound moves (squats, deadlifts, rows). Here’s a post with the exact workout I do 3x a week. Screenshot it and save it on your phone!

Creatine. Still. Always. 🧠
The research on creatine for women in their 40s…bone density, muscle retention, brain health has never been stronger, so I take this creatine monohydrate powder every day and it’s super important if you workout. It helps with muscle building and recovery!

The thing making me tired that wasn't my kids 🌿
90% of women aren't hitting their fiber intake and it shows up as the fatigue, bloating, and moods you can't explain. Try lemon chia seed water. 1-2 tbsp chia seeds in water, wait 10 minutes, add lemon, sip slowly.

She had no idea what was coming…

A letter to the girl I was before all of this…

Dear 20-something Jen,

You packed one carry-on for a three-month trip. ✈️

And thought that was completely normal.

Hot yoga at 10am on a Tuesday.
A new city every few weeks.
Plans made, canceled, remade — because you could.

You didn't even realize that life was a vacation. 🏝️

Here's what's coming…

You'll learn patience like never before.
You'll love more than you ever thought you could.
You'll find meaning in things you once thought were meaningless.

That YouTube channel you started in 2012?

You're still doing it. And thriving. ✨
You've re-invented yourself.
When things got tough, you pushed through.
You never lose that drive or persistence.

Those days of caring so much about what people think?
They're over.
You protect your peace now because you remember what really matters.

You never dreamt of the perfect wedding.
But you find someone who is a perfect fit for you. 💛

He stands up to you when you're being unreasonable.
He calms you down when you're feeling emotional.
He loves you even when you're at your worst.

Then you'll have 2 kids.
And they'll be the best things you've ever created in your life.

You'll love them so much it'll literally hurt in your heart. 🥹
Like your heart is walking outside of your chest.

You're still learning to balance family, work, and motherhood.

You don't have it all figured out.

But here's the thing…

You’re an amazing wife, sister, daughter and mother.
And you build a great life that you’re so proud of.

(Ya, you never thought it. But you will.)

And you're going to do great things.

Keep going.

Love,

40-year-old Jen 💛